Planning your wedding can be one of the most exciting times of your life!!! It can also be very stressful. This is one of the first times when all your friends and family, and all his friends and family, are gathered together to celebrate your marriage. It can feel like a lot of pressure, but one piece of advice I give all my brides is to remember this; at the end of the day, your wedding day is about marrying the man of your dreams! Yes, everyone will have an opinion on what to do and what not to do, and if you are a people pleaser like me, then you will want to make sure that you are making everyone happy. Which, unfortunately is a little hard to do. So I always suggest planning your wedding day the way you want it, it’s your wedding day after all! Yes, it is nice to consider your guests, as they are coming to support you and cheer you on, but make sure that you are making it a day that is special to you and your fiancé!
The months leading up to your wedding are filled with making sure you have everything planned and organized, all the vendors booked, seating arrangements are made, and making sure everything will be perfect! I’ve seen many brides get wrapped up in all the plans and have a lot of pre-wedding stress that all they want is for it to be over. Give yourself some grace and take an evening or day off wedding plans to recharge! Today, I am sharing 5 tips to help relieve that stress, recharge and get you excited and ready for your best day ever!
1. Have a black out night! If you haven’t heard of a black out night, it’s basically a night where you and whoever you are with commit to not use any technology for the night. That’s right, no phones, no social media, no TV, no computers, no video games. Of course electricity is allowed, having lights and AC are important 🙂 Some people go as far as saying no music as well. But I think that music is ok if it’s played on actual instruments or a record player. The whole point of a black out night is to get away from social media and vegging out on Netflix or YouTube. It is a great way to reconnect with friends, family, or your fiancé. Now more than ever, we are all worried about what everyone else is doing and what’s going online that we sometimes forget to live in the now and be present with our loved ones. My favorite way to spend a black out night is to have the record player going with some old jazz or classical music, play a board game or cards, do a puzzle, or even work on a project or craft together. Of course, having some yummy snacks and fun drinks help to liven things up a bit too 😉 Some of my favorite board games for 2 players are Strategio, Battleship, Guess Who, and lately Disney Trivia. Some of my favorites for more that 2 players are 7 Wonders, Settlers of Catan, Clue, and the Game of Life. My favorite double date night game is Taboo! Taking the time to disconnect from the world and to intentionally reconnect and be present with your loved ones, can really help you take your mind off of the stress of planning your wedding.
2. Get a massage! Massages are the ultimate in the relaxation and destress department. You really have no choice but to relax and enjoy the moment. Your stress will melt away and the smoothing music and ambiance will calm your soul. You’ll leave feeling like a new woman and ready to take on the world! Or at least your wedding 😉
3. Go on a walk. I know this sounds simple, but leave your phone at home or at least put it on airplane mode, and get outside with your fiancé. Even a 30 minute walk around the block can clear your mind. Walking hand in hand with Eli always makes me feel better. Being out in the fresh air and seeing the plants and trees in your neighborhood really help put things in perspective! Bonus points if you live near the ocean and can go for a walk on the beach! But here’s the kicker, make the conscious decision to not discuss the wedding or any of the wedding plans. Instead, ask each other what you are most looking forward to in married life and where you see the two of you in 5 years. Taking the time to reconnect and talk about the future will put all the wedding planning back into perspective and reignite the excitement of getting married!
4. Have a girls night. Sometimes just getting out of your every routine can help calm your nerves and lower your stress levels! Get your best girls together and have a night out or stay in. Just being around your closest friends who want the best for you will lift your spirits! If you opt for a night out, choose one of your favorite restaurants or at least one that has good vibes only! If you stay in, grab some dark chocolate and your favorite snacks and do face masks or watch a fun movie! The point here is to have fun and laugh! Laughter is the best medicine after all 🙂 I know for me, any get together with a cheese board and chocolate makes me super happy!
5. Have your engagement photos taken! I like to tell my couples to consider their engagement session as just a date night, not just a photo session. I also encourage my brides to get their hair and make up done for their photos. So you get a little pampered and dressed up to gaze into your finance’s eyes! Definitely use that opportunity to go out to a nice dinner afterwards! During my engagement sessions, I like to ask my couples questions about how they met, how he proposed, how she knew he was the one, ect. With all the emotions being brought up from remembering the beginning of your love story and being so close to your fiancé, you will be even more excited about your wedding day and will forget all about the stress of planning!
Bonus tips! Any of the above mentioned activities done with your fiancé, you should try to keep your conversations off any wedding plans! Remember that the two of you are in this planning process together but you don’t want to loose sight of the importance of whats ahead. Still go on dates and spend quality time together. Go to dinner at restaurants you both love, check out a new coffee shop, go play mini-golf, or see that new movie you both are excited to see! Don’t let the stress of planning your wedding get in the way of loving your future spouse. Again, be intentional about your date nights and make them about the two of you, your passions, your dreams, your future, and remind yourselves of why you fell in love with the other person. List things you love about each other and things you are grateful for about the other person! When you put all of the planning into perspective, it helps elevate the stress from the process and will renew your love for each other and your best day ever! After all, it’s just the first day of your forever!
I hope these tips help! Please let me know if you try any of them by tagging me on social media. Unless it’s black out night. Share with me when you are doing a recap from your black out night 😉 Here’s to a less stressful engagement and a marriage filled with rest, quality time, and grace! I know your wedding will be wonderful, full of emotion and love! And most of all, no matter what happens, you are marrying the love of your life! That’s the most important part 🙂